January 18, 2008...5:10 pm
Detaching not attaching
After having dedicated a post to the quality of forgiveness in the blog magazine, today morning I want to dedicate my attention to detachment. I spend most of my time in its company and I have to say it has been my saving anchor in several crucial occasions. Going back in the memory I noticed that this mechanism has started to work quite naturally since childhood. Now I know for example that I used to live a difficulty in parallel with another girlfriend during primary school and while she was talking a lot about it involving herself and other people I was acting like a sort of stranger to the situation. I was watching the people around me playing their rule and for me it was like being in a movie, a stressful involvement being not verily expressed there.
But this attitude which has been growing with the time with my person has always fascinating me a lot, especially during the studies in Psychology. However I never was satisfied by any theoretical explanation. It seems the same authors who try to describe it are themselves or too much detached or too much involved in the same process. Wikipedia people also do not offer a very wide and interesting idea of detachment.
Nowadays a lot of books concerning managerial modern skills like to include detachment as an ability to cope with stress and different people in a work environment.
Thinking of detachment the first thing pictured in my imagination is many people dancing together with joy and order. When I started studying and practicing yoga I discovered another meaning for detachment and it is really valid and not difficult to understand. We might be involved in our feelings and actions with other people and situations but in a deeper section of our comprehension we are aware that events, facts and human beings do not depend on us. Each has its own independence to exist and be what it is. I want to see how my detachment develops and which flowers it can bring forth to my understanding of myself and the human nature.
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